A father once noticed that his son kept a door in the house tightly shut.
The father did not break it down or shout from the other side. Instead, he sat near the door each evening and spoke gently, reminding his son that the house was safe, that mistakes were not the end, and that help was always available.
One night, the door slowly opened. The son stepped out—not because he was forced, but because he finally believed he would be met with love instead of anger. From that day on, the door was never locked again.
Parents are a child’s first teachers and spiritual guides. When a son or daughter struggles with pornography or masturbation, it’s essential for parents to respond with love, wisdom, and biblical truth rather than fear or shame. This chapter offers simple, practical conversation points to help parents guide their children toward healing, freedom, and trust in God.
Parents—pause and pray before speaking. Ask God for wisdom, gentleness, and clarity.
Reassure your child of your unconditional love. Make it clear that their worth is not defined by their struggle and that temptation does not make them unlovable or broken.
Tell your child explicitly that your love for them is unchanging.
Let your child know this topic is not taboo. Creating safety removes secrecy and invites honesty.
Invite your child to talk without consequences or judgment.
Teach that sexual desire is God-given and good, but meant to be expressed within God’s design for marriage.
Explain God’s purpose for sexuality in simple, age-appropriate language.
Explain how pornography rewires the brain, damages relationships, and distorts intimacy.
Share one factual, calm explanation of porn’s effects.
Prayer invites God into the struggle and reminds your child they are not alone.
Pray with your child out loud.
Heavenly Father,
Thank You for entrusting parents with the sacred role of guiding their children. Grant wisdom, patience, and compassion in difficult conversations. Remove fear and shame, and replace them with truth and grace. Heal hearts, restore trust, and lead families into freedom and light. Amen.
You’ve completed Chapter 19. Faithful conversations plant seeds that God Himself grows. Trust that love, patience, and prayer are never wasted.